For me, prayer is a surge of the heart; it is a simple look turned toward heaven, it is a cry of recognition and of love, embracing both trial and joy.
—St. Therese of Lisieux
I just love the different people I encounter at adoration on any given day.
Just the other day, as I was praying the rosary, a woman in the row of seats next to me seemed restless. She kept getting up and going to the back of the chapel to get some books. She didn’t seem to comfortable just sitting there and looked like she needed something to read.
As I went on with my rosary, the woman asked, “Excuse me, but do you have the Our Father over there by you?”
I rummaged through my bag o’ books and had to laugh: Of all the prayer cards and books I have on me at any given time, how could I not have the Our Father, the most common prayer?!
I apologized for not having it handy but then informed her it was in the Bible. (Matthew 6 for future reference.)
She had no idea and was so grateful that I mentioned this to her.
I went back to my rosary but couldn’t help think: “How sad that this person didn’t know the Our Father!”
And then I realized the hard truth: There’s no prayer in public schools anymore. There’s no prayer on tv. There’s no one praying out in the open for fear of being sued or ridiculed. So why should I be surprised that this middle aged woman didn’t know the most common prayer in history?
If I hadn’t been raised Catholic I may not know the Our Father, either. But I also didn’t start really praying from the heart until a couple years ago. I started seeing people sincerely speak words from their heart, as they would pray either over me or with me or even before a meal and I thought, “I gotta step up my prayer game. These people are professionals!”
There’s lots of books on contemplative prayer, and meditative prayer and repetitive prayers, novenas, chaplets, devotions, etc. It can seem overwhelming if your goal is just to learn how to pray everyday.
I’m no expert but I thought, if I were to try to help someone learn how to pray, here’s what I would suggest:
Books to Pray With
Two books by Jacques Philippe are great recommendations:
Time for God And his follow-up book is called Thirsting for Prayer
Both books are under 150 pages, which is why I like them so much. Sometimes I think we say we don’t have time to read about how to pray, but we do. We just have to make the time. And these books can easily be read in a couple of days.
Meditation and Contemplation
There’s also a great way to pray with scripture called Lectio Divina. I’m not too great with this. My poor Spiritual Director had suggested it to me and I really struggle with this one. I can’t quite do this by myself but I have found it to be helpful in a group setting. It’s harder to become distracted with others around, for me at least.
Thomas Merton is probably one of the more widely known teachers of contemplative prayer. His book, Contemplative Prayer is one of the most popular spiritual books out there. According to reviews, ”
Another great author is Richard Rohr. He has a book entitled, Everything Belongs: The Gift of Contemplative Prayer. Rohr also has a great website where you can sign up for his daily meditations. Richard Rohr, OFM – Center for Action and Contemplation
There’s an App for that
If books aren’t really your thing and you’d prefer to use an electronic device to pray, I have to mention two that are FREE and worthwhile.
The first is called Examen and it’s my favorite app to use. Not only is it helpful with your prayer life, it gets you to take a look back at your day for some self-reflection. In our busy day-to-day hustle and bustle, it’s really key to take time to reflect on not only all the good that God provides for us, but the moments when maybe we weren’t really acting or thinking with the mind of Christ.
The second app is called iBreviary and it’s used to pray the Liturgy of the Hours. This is what most priests use and religious as a way to pray for the Church and to mark each hour with prayer and song. I try to pray at least morning and evening prayer and lately I’ve been on a roll praying all 5 times throughout the day. It doesn’t take long and what I like about it is that this forces me to slow down and take a breather to focus on what’s really important. It’s amazing how SANE I feel and how any anxiety I have melts away after I pray this way.
“Truly, I say to you, unless you turn and become like children, you will never enter the kingdom of heaven.” Mt 18:2
Recently, I shared with my 7th graders the 5 Finger Prayer. It was an easy way for them to understand a certain order to pray in because let’s be honest, sometimes we just don’t know where to begin after we make the sign of the cross.
Here’s an easy way to remember that even a kid can understand:
“But when you pray, go in your room and shut the door and pray to your father who is in secret.” Mt 6:6
I’m in awe of people who create and construct their own home altars. Whoa. That’s a bit advanced for me.
I would suggest trying to find your own “cell” or private space in which to pray everyday. If you tend to become easily distracted, like me, then praying in the middle of a house full of people/kids/blaring tv, etc just isn’t going to cut it. A table or a desk and maybe enough space for a couple of books (the Bible being most important of course) is really all you need!
Speaking of the Word, if there was just one book you need or require to get started praying, the Bible is really the only one you need. And while there are Bible apps, I would suggest an actual Bible. And perhaps a notebook to act as your prayer journal. Because chances are, once you start to really pray religiously (ooooh see what I did there?) you will no doubt want to jot down thoughts that the Spirit stirs in you. Plus it’s a neat way to look back after a few months to see how some of your prayers have been answered!
When all else fails, when you feel overwhelmed by all these methods of prayer, just go back to the beginning and think of the woman I spoke to during Adoration. The most basic prayer you can pray is the prayer Jesus taught us:
Our Father who art in heaven,
Hallowed be thy name.
Thy kingdom come.
Thy will be done
On earth as it is in heaven.
Give us this day our daily bread,
And forgive us our trespasses
As we forgive those who trespass against us;
And lead us not into temptation,
But deliver us from evil.
3 thoughts on “The Gift of Teaching Others How to Pray”
Love this. Just finished The Jesuit’s Guide To (Almost) Everything. Highly influenced by Merton. Very nice, Michelle. 🙂
Contemplative prayer is the most important of my daily rituals….
We had 3 high school aged students last year in our RCIT program (RCIA for Teens!) that my wife and I teach and guide at our local parish, and two of them knew nothing about Catholicism, not been the sign of the cross or Our Father. Their parents were in RCIA so the families were all going through the process together, talk about praying to God that you have a lump of clay in front of you to mold into a Catholic over 9 months and hope a sculpture results in the end! It did!
Point is that I was amazed too that they didn’t even know the most basic of prayers, but the Lord and his grace guided them to the Church to learn!
You’ve got good taste! I love Merton, Fr. Jacques, and Fr. Rohr!!! 😉